I should just get over it?

Our culture and society today feeds the desire for a quick fix for everything. In movies, characters complex life issues work themselves out in 2 hrs or less. If we are hungry, we pop something in the microwave... or run off to the nearest fast food restaraunt to be fed quick. Any info we need is instantly available online. But in reality this isn't how our emotions work. It isn't how our brains work. Processing a deep loss takes time. Sometimes weeks, months or even years. If you are on a journey after a signifigant loss as I am - keep these things in mind.

*You are never alone.

God promises us He will comfort us and guide us. He oftens uses others in our life to comfort us as well - friends, family and counselors. I am currently seeking a counselor or support group for myself as I feel this will be very beneficial to me as it gets closer to the final court date of my divorce. I have learmed that asking for help is NOT a sign of weakness - it's a sign of wisdom.

*You need time.

Take time to honor the loss, sorrow, anger, or whatever overwhelming emotions that you feel - and in doing so it can be difficult even painful. But that's how you work through those feelings. Just because you don't just immediantly bounce right back from a loss does not mean you are less spiritual - it means you are fully human.

*You are normal.

The Bible is very clear in that it tells us we will all experience times of grief and sorrow and suffering. I read in Psalms 42 how David revealed his heart felt concerns and sadness. Many Bible characters grieved and went through times of severe losses and painful experiences. Including Jesus himself.

*Taken from the Family Caregiver Alliance - the following states that:

"Recent research has shown that intense grieving lasts from 3 months to a year and many people continue experiencing profound grief for 2 years or more. Others response to this extended grieving process may sometimes cause people to feel something is wrong with them or they are behaving abnormally. This is not the case.. prolonged grief is not unusual."

I say all this to say that I will overcome all of the obsticals and challenges I face in my own time.. and I have no idea how long that will take, but that I do my best and take things one day at a time. I can't be rushed - I am only human. I have much to face and I admit I am scared and unsure of what my future holds - but I am thankful for everyone who loves me, accepts me, encourages me, forgives me, helps me and is there for me.